Did you know that... (mini blog 4)

 One thing about relationships is that arguments will happen. No one is perfect and no two people are the same. We all make mistakes, and even more so we all have a way of thinking! With this being said I am going to share with you some things I have learned from personal relationships & some stats I have learned!

First off I would like to say that you can't have a discussion when you are angry & here is why. : 
In an argument when your heart rate goes over 100 beats a minute, you are incapable of hearing what your partner is trying to tell you. This means you need to take the time to calm down before you try and hear your partner. This is key to a relationship.

Next is I have learned about 65% of issues that come up in a relationships don't have a right or a wrong answer. So many arguments that happen have more then one solution. With this being said each person is so convinced their way is the right way, when in reality either person is right!

Last but not least you can't have a healthy relationship without a few disagreements. If you never disagree then you don't have any communication skills. Any relationship will have their issues come up so make sure you are communicating! 

Communicating! (mini blog 5)

What is communication really mean? How do you know what to say, when, and how much. Each relationship is different ( I can't stress this enough in every blog) so each couple will have different ways to approach communication. 

Don't stay to quiet! If you never talk you won't have a healthy relationship. If you can't communicate now what will happen days, months, years later when it is crucial. You need to find your voice. I always look at a situation and if its something I disagree I voice my opinion but I don't let it becoming to overbearing! You don't want your partner to feel suffocated by all of your opinions. You want a fair balance of you and your partner knowing where each other stand and leaving it at that. 

On an ending not I do want to say that finding your voice will determine how compatible you are with someone. You need to know how the other person is and they need to know about you. Your opinions and beliefs make you who you are! Make sure you have open communication. With that being said , your partner will be more comfortable talking to you! It's a win win when you can openly discuss issues, beliefs, and problems etc. 

Flirting! (mini blog 7)

 Flirting! We all do it, it seems natural and sometimes we do it when we are already in relationships. Before you stop reading and get freaked out, some people are very outgoing and it can be a problem in their relationship. I have dealt with this issue first hand! 

When you are in a relationship you have to be able to recognize what is flirting and what isn't. Along with that who you are hanging out with. It isn't the best idea to hang out with the opposite sex by yourself. Along with that how you interact with other is important. I have a few rules. 1) always give the most attention to your partner, they will see you interact with others and if they feel less, they may become jealous or a trust issue may start 2) don't hangout/ talk to the opposite sex to much 3) put yourself in their shoes. Before you do an action think : would I be okay with my bf/gf doing this to me? 

These few simple rules should have you off to a good start! I hope it helps and just remember it's okay to be social! You just have to make sure you aren't pushing it to far!